Life after 50,  Well-being

Are You Ready to Light the Fire of Possibility?

Something sparks your interest. Maybe it was something you saw on television. Maybe it was a compliment you received. Something you didn’t realize about yourself. Maybe your interest was sparked as you were having a conversation or reading something.

Something ignited an “I could do that” feeling within your being.

What did you do with it? That spark.

Many people begin by talking about their “I could do that” feeling or the “I want to do that” idea with family and friends. When you don’t go further than that initial position, it is easy for other people to pour the waters of self-doubt on your possibility.

With the right steps, however, you can take the spark into the beginning of the fire of passion and have the knowledge and ability to fan those flames into achievement.

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How Can You Fan the Sparks of Possibility?

You have that spark. You have that “I can do that” feeling of possibility, but when you share your possibility, certain people try to shoot holes in your ideas or pour the waters of self-doubt on your sparks.

As a teenager and young adult, my parents shot holes in many of my desired interests. As a woman over 50, my children and their spouses sometimes try to instill their fears about my activities.

Don’t let them do that.

There are four steps to help you fan those sparks into flames. Four steps that you can take before sharing your possibility with others. Steps that you can do on your own that require a time investment, but not necessarily a financial investment. Follow these four steps before you share your spark of possibility with your family and friends.

  1. Learn about the possibility – the desired potential achievement. It used to be that to learn more you had to visit the public library and check out volumes of books devoted to the topic. Either that or register for a workshop or class that you had to physically attend at a given time in a given place. The twenty-first century has given us easy access to information and courses within our own homes. Learn everything possible. Take notes. Figure out what skills you have and what skills you need to acquire.
  2. Make a plan. How much time are you willing to invest to transfer the spark of possibility into achievement? How much of your energy are you willing to invest? You need to create a plan that includes step-by-step accomplishments and deadlines.
  3. Take action. Plans are great, but it won’t be until you read that first article, help out at the animal shelter, take that first class or workshop, or write that first proposal that the spark will begin to ignite the passion. It won’t be until you take action that you will understand what you are getting into.
  4. Look for support. It is in taking action that you truly realize if the possibility within yourself is something you want to achieve; if you want to fan the spark. At this point, it is time to look for support from like-minded people. Whether these people are in your local area or part of a group of like-mind people on a social media platform, once you realize that the possibility is worth turning into an achievement, it is time to share your desire with like-minded people.
  5. Share with friends and family. When you are knowledgeable enough about your passion, you can share it with friends and family. You have the tools to hold your own against anyone who would like to extinguish your flame.

What about you?

Has your passion to pursue an activity or travel somewhere been drowned with the waters of self-doubt? How have you dealt with friends and family who “don’t think you should?” Please take a moment to share your thoughts and ideas in the comments below.


Until next time . . .

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