In the afternoon, we listen to “court” television shows like Divorce Court and Paternity Court. I’m always amazed at the number of people whose major complaint with their spouse or partner is that the person they fell in love with has changed.
On the other hand,
I am also amazed at the number of people who looked at their partner’s flaws and thought that they or the relationship could mold the partner into the person they wanted.
It’s the same attitude I see in parents who have a vision for their children’s future and get upset when the child rebels. The parents who want their child to be a doctor or lawyer, but the child is interested in a different path.
I see this in friendships that disintegrate with one person not knowing or understanding what happened.
Where do people get this warped idea of people and relationships?
People change as they go through life. They learn new things. They become interested in new ideas. They toss away behaviors that just don’t fit them any more. They grow.
From one human being to another, I’m glad we can grow, learn, and change. Imagine how boring this world would be if you never explored something different; tried a new food; learned something new; traveled to a different city, state, or country.
What is missing in this world is the acceptance that your significant other, spouse, friend, or child should be allowed to be human: to grow, to change, to become, to improve. To become the person they were meant to be.
Next time you find yourself wondering what happened with a friend, significant other, spouse, or child realize that, because they are human, they are going to grow, change, become, improve from the experiences they have, the events in their lives, and the exploration of the world.