Life after 50,  Motivation



Happy New Year and welcome to 2018.


How fitting for a 2017 to end on a Sunday, the last day of the week (at least in the Christian calendar) and a day of rest, and our new year, 2018, to begin on a Monday. It has happened only eight other times in my life time and won’t happen again until 2024. Since this is January and the start of the new year, I thought I would focus on goal setting and making resolutions.


Let me start you thinking. How many times have you made a resolution only to find yourself giving up before the month of February is close? No? What about that goal last year to exercise daily? Or that goal to eat more health-consciously? But we’re writers. OK. What about that goal to finish the major writing project you’ve been working on? Or write for 10 minutes a day? Or write 500 words a day?

You probably have many excuses for NOT completing that goal or resolution. “Life interfered.” That’s a good one, isn’t it, because it removes the fault from ourselves.

“I wasn’t in the mood to write.” Let me ask you this. Do you have to be in the mood to cook dinner for your family? Get out of bed and go to work? Do the dishes after a meal? Nope? I didn’t think so.

“I didn’t get to it yesterday. Why should I get to it today?” Or you could look at it as by the week or by the month. This is how one day becomes two, and two days become four.

“I was really motivated to get down to work in December when I made the goal, but I’ve lost the motivation. I wish I could have started then.” Why didn’t you? Why on earth did you wait until Father Time fired the starting pistol for the new year?


Having only ONE New Year is bogus. What we need are multiple New Years in one year.

When I was teaching high school, I celebrated five separate new years. “Five?” you ask. Yes, five. January 1, the beginning of the new calendar year; approximately January 15, the beginning of the second semester of the school year; March 8, the beginning of my personal new year; early June, the beginning of the summer months; late August/beginning of September, the beginning of a new school year. Then, sometimes, I celebrated a new month or a new week as a new beginning because that previous week/month had been so difficult.

The point is that we don’t have to wait until January 1 begin our journey forward. We do, however, need to take time to determine where we want to go, but to do that we need to look at where we have been.

REFLECTION & DATA (Lessons from teaching high school)

Look at where we’ve been? Why? Aren’t we supposed to keep focusing forward?

How can you know how to get where you want to go if you don’t know where you have been and haven’t determined why you aren’t there yet?

In education, teachers are taught to look at data (much of the time this is a student’s score on a test) in order to evaluate each student’s growth. If the student’s score (the data) doesn’t reflect the desired growth, the skills must be re-taught or reinforced. If a teacher were to just move ahead to the next chapter, say in math, without students grasping the concepts of the current chapter, the teacher would lose the forward progress of students.

Now I do realize that data needs to be analyzed in more than one way: Did the students not grasp the concepts taught? Were skills that were previously taught not mastered by the students? Was the test poorly constructed or worded? Was an individual absent for the bulk of the lessons?

In one school district where I taught there was a teacher in the English department who insisted that if something was important enough to teach, it was important enough to have at least one question on the final. In those years, the semester final exam contained up to 200 questions. As we reviewed the scores and incorrectly answered questions, it was soon easy to see that some questions were poorly written, some groups of answers had more than one feasible answer, or that it was necessary to add the written passage that went along with the question. However tedious this was, it taught me that I needed to look at data to examine my progress along the path to any goal.

To look forward and map out a path to success, we need to look back over the previous year (or more) and reflect on what worked and what didn’t. We need to look not just at the resolutions/goals we made, but at everything that happened during the year. We need to look not at what we did, but at how we did it.

Remember the definition of insanity that you keep seeing on the internet?

If we keep working to the same goal with the same steps, we are going to keep closing the doors to achieving our goals before the end of February.


Open a notebook or grab a sheet of paper and let’s begin.

I’d say make yourself some columns, but as I have been working on this exercise for the past week, I found that the last two categories don’t fit neatly into columns. Instead I worked through each accomplishment/non-accomplishment line by line.


Here are a couple of my reflections using this technique.

  • PLANNED GOAL: I had a vague idea of how I planned to add exercise to my daily routine.
  • WHY WAS THIS SUCCESSFUL/NOT SUCCESSFUL: I blamed life for interfering, but it was me – all me. I lacked the internal motivation to put on the shoes and go for a walk or drive to the gym or put on an exercise DVD. My motivation back in Illinois used to be my neighbor. She’d text me to see if I was ready for our walk or just knock on my door.
  • SHOULD THIS REALLY BE SOMETHING I WANT TO ACCOMPLISH/HOW DO I FIX THIS: I know that I feel better and more energetic when I get some exercise during the day. I also feel less foggy-brained. Since I need to be up and dressed four days a week to take my step-daughter to work, I need to learn to set out for a walk when I get home and not sit down for coffee first.
  • ACCOMPLISHMENT/NON-ACCOMPLISHMENT: Be a winner (finish the challenge) of NaNoWriMo
  • PLANNED GOAL: In 2017, I planned, as usual, to complete the 50,000 words in November.
  • WHY WAS THIS SUCCESSFUL/NOT SUCCESSFUL: Many people take the month of October to plan out their NaNo novel; I didn’t. I decided the week before November 1 that I would once again participate, and at that point I had no idea what I wanted to write about.
  • SHOULD THIS REALLY BE SOMETHING I WANT TO ACCOMPLISH/HOW DO I FIX THIS: At this time, I’m not sure I really need to be focusing on NaNo. I have several starts and ideas that this challenge has drawn out of me. What I really need to do now is work to edit and polish at least one of them and get it into the hands of an editor or agent.

Now it is time for you to reflect before you map out 2018.

How did 2017 go for you? What did you actually accomplish? What goals did you start out the year with that became non-accomplishment? Will you trash that goal or set your sights on a new route to accomplish that goal?

Let me know how your reflections are going or what some of your goals for 2018 are

Thanks for reading.


As you move through your day-to-day activities and responsibilities, please remember to

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