I hear it far too often: It’s not my fault that I am in the position I’m in; What happened is not my fault; I didn’t do anything to get ___ (fill in the blank with anything that is negative in your life – or pick one from below).
dumped – fired – lost – broke – a failing grade
What has happened to personal responsibility? What has happened to owning up to the behavior or actions that landed you in the position you are in? What has happened to picking yourself up by the elastic band of your big girl panties and changing your world?
Why is it that your boyfriend/girlfriend dumped you?
Why is it that your boss fired you?
Why are you lost?
Why are you broke?
Why did you receive that failing grade?
Well, it’s time. It’s time to say enough is enough. It’s time to say “I will take ownership of my life. I will do what I need to in order to ___ (fill in the blank with the self-improvement goal of your choice).”
I will work hard to develop and grow the relationship with my boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance, spouse.
I will arrive at work on time and do what is expected of me.
I will make sure I know where I am going before I leave home.
I will work to save money instead of go out on a shopping spree, impulse buying spree, or use retail therapy to make me feel better.
I will make sure that I study diligently and do what I need to do to get the best grades possible.
Why is it that we wait for some product or person or program to come along and change our life for us? Only you know why it is that you are in this position. Only you really know what it is you need to do to improve your life.
Yes, I am aware that there are situations over which we have absolutely NO control that may be part of the problem, but those situations can become a ball and chain when we start using them as an excuse.
Counselors and therapists, parents, teachers, and friends can give you suggestions about how to change your life, but in the end it is your responsibility to take action.
So, make this a week of “I think I can” days. You know where you want to be. You know who you want to be. In order to make that happen, take charge of this thing called life.